People say you shouldn’t regret anything but I think life is full of regret. We all make choices and do things we wish we hadn’t of and I don’t think there’s anything wrong with that. It’s part of the journey. There are, however, some things that I am certain I don’t regret. I’ve made choices and done things that have maybe had some repercussions but changed my life for the better.
Letting Go Of Toxic People, Even If They’re Close Friends
I have a specific ‘friend breakup’ in mind here. It was messy and everything ended on bad terms. Although I won’t go into detail of why I decided to end a friendship, I will say this person hurt me so much, I didn’t know what to do. I base my friendships on trust, I have to be able to trust them and of course, I want them to trust me.
My friends are my world and I would do anything for any of them. No questions asked! So when I felt betrayed and had been lied to I was stuck in a tricky situation. After arguments that felt like they lasted forever I decided that I could never trust this person again. There was no chance of rekindling our relationship even though I cared so deeply about them.
For a long time, I was worried I would regret my decision. It wasn’t something I could change if I did regret it so I felt pressure to be sure that was the right thing to do. It was. I have never felt regret about it, I still to this day carry anxiety around the situation and I think it hurt me a lot more than they ever thought. It was probably the best thing I could have done for myself.
Not Going To University (Even Though I Wanted To)
Something I get asked a lot is if I ever went to university and the answer is no, but I did have a place for 2 years running. In college, I studied musical theatre and always wanted to move on to drama school instead of university. After a year out I decided to go back and audition for a few schools, even though I got places at a couple I didn’t get funding which meant, at the time, I couldn’t go.
Fast forward to 2015 when I decided I wanted to go to university. I auditioned for musical theatre courses around the UK and ended up with a place at the one I wanted to go to, the University of Portsmouth. I had absolutely fallen in love with it there and still plan on moving down there.
Why didn’t I go? Well, I got ill. I was too unwell to go that year and had to defer my place due to being in and out of the hospital with multiple gastric problems. The next year I changed my course to marketing and managed to get in on that too but when it came to it, I decided I didn’t know if it was for me. I had spent so long out of education that it seemed a bit unnecessary as I could work and learn while I was doing that. Sure enough, that’s what I did! I really did think I’d regret not going to university but I actually think it was the right decision for me, I’m very happy with where I am now. Who knows what I’ll do in the future but for now, I’m good.
Having A F*cking Great Time When I Was Younger
I don’t regret going out with my friends’ ID when I was 17 and getting myself into some pretty unattractive states… I don’t regret doing that til I was almost 20 either. So many people say to me ‘I can’t believe you used to go out 3 or 4 times a week’, ‘how did you spend so much money on drink and taxi’s’. I don’t know how I used to do it, but I did and I have the BEST time. I made so many of my friends going out and drinking and having a great time. It probably was a waste of money but when you’re 18 what else do you want to spend it on?!
I don’t drink anymore, I don’t smoke anymore and I definitely don’t go on nights out. The truth is, I abused my body and it made me pretty poorly, both mentally and physically. But I still don’t regret it. It’s so important to enjoy yourself, to socialise and to do it while you can! I made valuable, happy memories that still reduce me and my friends to tears of laughter now! How could I ever regret that?!
What Don’t You Regret?
Let me know some of the things you’ve done that you don’t regret! I’d love to know.