I want to keep this as light hearted as I possibly can… So I’m taking a leaf out of this guys book (minus the rubber chicken).
I’ve had a pretty difficult 2 years when it comes to loving myself. I’m fighting a lot of different battles in my life, one of them being severe anxiety & panic disorder. I’ve never been the most confident person in the world but with my mental health the way it is, I feel as though I’ve been stripped of all my confidence. Of course, you definitely don’t need to be suffering with any sort of mental illness to lack confidence in yourself, this is just when I began to realise how much it was effecting me.
I can’t tell you exactly why people lack confidence, it’s different with everyone I guess. For me it all started at a really young age with bullying about my appearance, I’ve always been plus size and that is something that has really upset me in the past. Last year a seriously cracked down on losing weight, managing to shift 2 stone, I’m still continuing with my weight loss journey but I thought WHY do I have to wait till the end to be happy with myself?
The truth is, you can change yourself all you want and I still don’t think you’d be 100% happy with yourself as confidence issues lay much deeper than your appearance.
List 3 things that you love about yourself right now, just in your head, or on paper if you prefer. My 3 are my personality, my eyes and my ability to see the good in everyone, what are yours?! Let me know in the comments below! If you can’t list 3 things then that’s ok, you will be able to list them one day and let me tell you, it’ll be more than 3 things! There is something to love about everyone, you may not see it right now but your friends, family and strangers CAN.
I can’t even begin to tell you how important it is to begin to accept who you are, after all, how are you going to live a truly happy life if you can’t accept you for you? This last year a lot has changed for me, I started blogging just over a year ago and I’ve hit a lot of milestones already, everything is moving so fast and I’m not taking anything for granted, especially the support I receive from my readers and followers. I don’t have many people in my life, that probably doesn’t make a lot of sense but I’ve lost a lot of friends and I’m left with extremely few people to talk to. Having no one to turn to in hard times has really taken its toll on me and I always feel like I’m bothering someone if I want to talk to them, it’s time I stop thinking like that and for you to do the same. If someone doesn’t want to talk to you, they’ll tell you. If you want to talk to someone just do it.
You may not be ok with how you look or how you are but that doesn’t mean you can’t accept who you are.
Just because I say I can accept the person I am right now, it doesn’t mean I am in love with myself. There are a lot of things I want to be different, my mental health being my priority. You should always strive to live a happy, fulfilling life and sometimes things need to change in order for that to happen. No matter where you are in your life, no matter how much you have been through or are about to go through, always remember that it isn’t the end of the world if things aren’t perfect, there is always time to work on things.
Now, list 3 things you aren’t happy with. Mine are my weight, my agoraphobia/anxiety & my lack of confidence. Tell me, are the 3 things you listed things you’re able to work on? Are you able to better them over time? If the answer is yes then relax, don’t stress about these minor obstacles because you CAN do something about them and I know you WILL succeed if you want it bad enough. If the answer is no then think, can you work your way around them? Do they really matter? What else can you do to make yourself happier about these things?
Please don’t think I’m saying you HAVE to change to be happy, that really isn’t the case. My main focus is building confidence and in order to do that you have to overcome obstacles, the ones stopping you from feeling confident and accepting yourself for who you are.
My best advice to you would be to stop focusing on things that really don’t matter, let go of people who bring you down or don’t support you and focus on yourself. You are important, you need to protect yourself, you need to love yourself, you need to nourish yourself physically and mentally.
It doesn’t matter what size you are, what hair colour you have, what skin colour you have, what religion you are, I don’t care about your gender or sexuality… we all deserve to be happy in our own skin and I hope one day we all do!