-A comfort zone is a beautiful place but nothing ever grows there.
Something I’ve discovered over the last 2 years is that challenging myself is really hard. I’m someone who very much loves the comfort zone. I used to be really adventurous… I loved doing new things and going to new places, being spontaneous and getting a lil crazy. As a lot of you will know, a hell of a lot has changed for me over the last year and a half. I honestly used to be the most bubbly, happy, outgoing individual. I wasn’t ever afraid to do anything. I still suffered with anxiety a few years ago but never like I do now, I only really noticed it when I was very tired or stressed out about something. Unfortunately I’m not like that anymore and it isn’t something I can just sit and dwell on like a have been doing for a while, I have to accept the fact my life has changed and do everything I possibly can to get it back to the way it was.
Something I struggle with is comparing my progress to other peoples… We shouldn’t do this!
– Comparison is the thief of joy.
A big success to me may be a small success someone else, or not a success at all. WHO CARES?! I did, for ages. Actually I did until a few days ago. A few posts ago, I told you guys that I have agoraphobia. If you’re unsure on what that is or want to find out more you can read that post here: Agoraphobia. It’s something I’ve developed in the last 6 months and I’m still not used to feeling scared every time I leave the house. As much as I’d like to go out for hours with friends and do fun things at the moment it isn’t realistic, so, I have to challenge myself to do small things and build my confidence back up.
This weeks challenge for me was going to the bank. Yep, the bank. Think of it as silly or whatever you want but to me, it was a huge deal. I hate going anywhere I’ll have to queue for anything, anywhere that is crowded where people could see me have a panic attack. It scared me and I did panic but I’m here now still breathing! Everything is fine.
As much as I think you should challenge yourself I don’t think you should push yourself too far. If you don’t feel ready to do something then take a step back and have a little breather. There is always going to be an opportunity for you to step outside your comfort zone. Big journeys begin with small steps. Something we should all remember. It doesn’t matter how big your journey is and it doesn’t matter what it is. Everyone at some point in their life will go through a personal ‘journey’. It is individual to you and something that cannot be compared to someone else’s.
Something I’ve found really helpful is setting myself goals. If you ever want to challenge yourself to do something or become something you should look into setting yourself a goal. If you set yourself a goal then you have something to aim for. If it comes to it and you don’t feel ready then that’s ok! It just means you need more time to get there. Becoming a new/better person isn’t a race, think of it as an adventure! If you take your time with it you can learn so much about yourself.
Just a short one from me today but I hope you can take something from this. Do something that scares you a little bit, it is better for you than you think!
Talk to you all next week,